The Reason You're Feeling Confused

It's a beautiful day, until...

You wake up in the morning, and everything is peaceful. The sun is shining, the birds are chirping, and your coffee is so crisp an warm it could be a substitute for, well, crack. So basically, you're having a fabulous day. Why? Because you're not thinking. You're just running through your normal and simple daily routine. Everything seems so normal. It feels so nice. You're doing what feels good, and it's perfect. That is until someone, in some shitty way, brings up a specific topic that prompts you to think about everything that is the polar opposite of your minuscule joys. You know, topics such as your relationships, your job, your future, your future job, your past, or heck, even what you ate for breakfast this morning. You know that unhealthy toaster strudel you ate today? Didn't you know that it's full of sugar? Yeah, maybe not so miniscule. Anyways, we feel pretty grounded for a little while until someone or something makes us really think about what we want, who we are, and why we do the things we do. It's really important to look at yourself and question yourself in a healthy and responsible manner, but when does it become detrimental? In the shortest blog ever, I'm going to help you feel a little less confused if I can, and hopefully lift your spirit up. It may not be much, but it's definitely not nothing.

What point am I trying to make?

Here is my point, we as humans are extremely unique in every way. In our DNA, our behavior, our thoughts, our relationships, our choices, our preferences, and so on. Even if we share similar life characteristics with someone, no two people are identical when it comes to who the person really is deep down. We're all different. We usually conduct ourselves from the core of who we are as well. We make choices based off of what feels right and what doesn't. Everything is feeling, and since we are made of energy, when something doesn't attract us we usually don't plan on getting involved. You might make a choice based on your preferences and gut instincts and feel confident about it, but don't get too comfortable with that just yet. Why? Because out of nowhere, someone with a loaded gun full of 'doubt' is coming out of the woodwork; and they're aiming it right at you. They come with questions such as "Why are you doing that? Why are you talking to him/her? Do you really think you can make a living doing that? Why didn't you just go to college? Do you even want kids? Why do you act like that? Why do you dress like that? Is this really what you want?" While these questions can be helpful, they can also be hurtful. If you're constantly surrounded by opinionated and 'holier than thou' people, you may feel like your brain is about to explode because you don't know if you should go left, or right. It's so simple, but when you have everyone's opinions flooding your conscience, it can feel like a living hell to make a damn decision. You're not confused about your life because you don't know what's right for you, you're confused because you're being distracted by everyone's subjective views on what they think is 'right' for you.

Mental garbage and the illusory opinions of 'sheep'

If you don't want to live in Idaho anymore, move away. If you don't like Jessica because she's always low blowing you, delete her number. If you want to have more sex, then have more sex. If you love salad, eat more salad. If you want to be a singer, start singing more. If you don't want to be a doctor, then study something else. If you want to travel to Europe for a year even though you have a job in the states, you should still go to Europe. If you want to date Stephen, then god dammit go on a date with Stephen! It's so simple. Yes you can think about your choices before you make them to avoid unnecessary troubles, but do NOT let people's opinions of you (or your own false beliefs) hinder you from having a flavorful and wonderful life. Do what feels right! If you need to think things twenty times over, then do that. If you want to make a spontaneous and quick decision, then do that. If you're in love with Katherine but your mom hates Katherine, you should still date Katherine. If you feel like you should eat healthier, then do that. Not because some article on Facebook told you to do any of these things. Do what you know is best for you. Yes, advice from others can be very beneficial, and it can give you an idea about what's really going on objectively if you're feeling foggy about certain aspects of your life. But keep in mind that we live in an era of people who are obsessed with telling others how they think life should be lived. People love to tell others what to do. Why is this? Because these people are in the same boat as you. They're confused, because mommy and daddy want them to attend law school but they want to be a doctor or an actor, or whatever. It's a defense mechanism. They want to feel validation in every possible way, and if they're drowning in confusion (like many of you who are reading this) the first thing they like to do is point out what they perceive to be 'flaws' in others. If they can feel the slightest bit of certainty about someone else's life, they don't have to think twice about their mistakes. They're so unhappy, that any kind of distraction from their own cesspool of doubts is the closest thing to touching heaven. Almost everyone you know is a confused sheep, but can you blame them? They're confused. All of them doing what others want them to do because they don't trust themselves enough to live by their truth.

So, here's the solution!

Do whatever the hell you want.

Unless your choices are really causing some serious harm to you or others, you're in the clear my friend! Be who you are. Dress how you want, talk how you want, do what you want, and be who you want. If you need to progress, then progress. Change is amazing. Just because you change doesn't mean you're not being true to yourself either. Stop reading stupid articles that only limit you. Do you even know who wrote them? Shift your focus onto yourself and be happy with your own decisions. People only criticize you when they feel threatened in some shape or form. They might not even know they're doing it. It's called projection. Nobody wants to feel like they're doing something wrong. So, the next time someone tries to tell you how to run your life, give them the middle finger. But also, show them that they're confused too. And if you can, help them move in a direction that's best suited for them. If they weren't truly confused, they wouldn't be worried about who you are, or what your'e doing (unless you're like stealing cars or assaulting strangers, you should chill out). But you should always trust yourself, and just live your life! I hope this article helped you in any way possible. And remember to look at your own behavior after reading this, too. You may feel like you never judge others, but you might be being a bitch just like Jessica.